Five Things I learned from Rio 2

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April 13, 2014 SM Megamall

It was a very long day for the family as we were only able to get out of the house when it was already night since I had to recover from the long work week which included a client meeting and photobooth event on Saturday.

So we didn’t have concrete plans when we went out except to eat our dinner and attend the Palm Sunday Mass.  But after hearing the mass we still have time left and passed by the floor where we the cinemas were.  And since for the past few weeks, Champee was persistently asking us to watch Rio 2 in the big screen whenever we drive by the big Rio 2 billboard in C5, I guess this is the right time for us to take her to her first movie .

We were very anxious as to how she will react with the big dark room.  I remembered our experience in the Mind Museum where there’s total darkness in their planetarium.  Champee screamed when the show started due to the loud sound, prompting us to get out of the cinema-like room.  However since all viewers were lying flat on the floor it became extra difficult to go out as we might step on other people’s faces.  Me and Champee were able to get out alive 🙂 however, as my wife headed towards the exit she accidentally push the door a little bit strong and the hinge came off so light entered the entire room ruining the other people’s planetarium experience.  So we hurriedly pushed back the door and went out to another part of the museum where hopefully no one can recognize us.

So the test begins when we entered the cinema, it was already flag ceremony and it was also her first time to hear our national anthem.  We were able to find a good spot to seat and then fortunately, she enjoyed the movie trailers.  That at least ensured us that she’s going to enjoy Rio 2, until Godzilla’s trailer showed up.  It has the most frightening musical scoring and scenes so we got alarmed and the mind museum experience flashed back.  However, we needed to be composed so we pretended that Godzilla is just like Barney, so she wouldn’t think it’s really scary 🙂  Good thing that it didn’t last that long and another cartoon trailer showed up and then Rio 2 started.

As we watched the movie, it’s good to know that even though it’s an animation film both kids and adults enjoyed the show.  And as I’m writing this blog, I just wanted to share some insights that I learned from Rio 2… 

  1. Being a dad is hard enough, but fumbling when your family expects you to deliver is the worst feeling in the world – when Blu went in to play for the Macaus, it was his time to shine.  It was his time to redeem his family’s respect that he can win it for them.  But then, when the time comes he needs to score, I remembered the movie “Puto” where Mayor Bistek shoot the ball in his opponents basket.  Similar to what Blu did, he failed.  I remember the times when I failed to deliver my family’s needs.  When work took most of my time rather than spending my nights playing with Champee.  When I feel helpless on Champee’s fight with constipation… and the list could go on.  One of the favorite quotes I got from Bishop Soc was that “The beauty of the stars can only be seen by those people who walk in the dark”  When we fail, when fumble on the peak of pressure, those are the darkest moments in one’s life… but these moments are the ones that could make you fulfill your destiny as these can make you stronger. 
  2. Different people have different strengths – when Blu met Roberto (being the alpha male in Jewel’s tribe) a sense of security sets in.  Probably in our parenting, there might be dads whom other moms admire as a hands on dad, or a very playful dad, or even a mommy-like dad.  Regardless of shape, size, abilities and talents, I would say that one should never gauge his fatherhood on other people’s standards.  We each have own abilities that we can bring to the table that our kids would enjoy.  Or to properly put it, God has given each dad his mission based on his ability to take care of his family.  Whether you are the jolly dad or the military dad, God molds us into the perfect dad for our wife and kids based on our God-given abilities.
  3. Sometimes we tend to create a big plan out of a strategy we haven’t tested yet – during the highlight of Nigel’s attempt to kill Blu by having Gabi shoot a poisoned spear based on her saliva, it failed as she is not poisonous after all.  Sometimes, not just on parenting, we have preconceived notions of doing things without checking if they really resolve our problems.  Like if our baby seemed to not respond to our commands, our first reaction was to shout.  And then shout even more until she cries out and both of you are making noises and not getting your messages across.  I learned it the hard way, that the most effective way to communicate your thoughts is by listening first, understanding the other person’s concern and then responding in a lower voice.  They say that the greatest tool in communication is your ear rather than your mouth.  And when we listen, we use our hearts before using our mouths.
  4. You can find talent in the most unexpected places or events – in Rio’s got talent auditions, they weren’t able to find the talents in the city.  But when they went into the Amazon, they found all sorts of acts and talents.  I guess this goes the same with our parenting where we shouldn’t box our kid’s capabilities based on our bias. We shouldn’t be limiting their abilities based on what we wanted them to be.  I remember an article before saying to let kids enjoy their childhood.  And that for each activity they do, parents should simply support and appreciate their output.  I remember a story of a mom who had a daughter showing her a story she wrote.  The mom goes proofreading like reviewing a newspaper editorial.  In adult’s standards, it was one of the poorly written stories in the world, but for a child it’s a starting point of unlocking her full potential when she grows up.  Again, talents can be seen in unexpected places.  Never let our kids be robbed off of that opportunity to discover theirs by limiting their abilities through an adult’s ignorance.
  5. There’s no place like home – although Blu was hesitant to accept that the Amazon is their home, he eventually did when he finds how happy Jewel and their kids are in their natural habitat.  In this busy life that we live in, most couples are now preoccupied with work to earn a living and secure their child’s future through logging more hours at the office. True wealth is at home. We learned this the hard way by allowing Champee be reared by a nanny on the first year of her life.  When my wife decided to stay and do business at her own phase and also stay at home with our baby, that was the time we realized we should have done this a long time ago.  There was just a big difference on her development when we had that setup. We could never exchange the time we invested on Champee over the money that we earn when we’re both working.  I believe as parents, we owe it to our kids to prioritize building a home that they can love and be loved so when they grow up, they can spread the love as well and create beautiful homes as well.

Carwash

PictureMe and Champee on our way home from our date.

March 29, 2014 – One of the best things I learned from the Feast when I was still attending then was to have weekly dates with your spouse.  So when Champee was still in Cali’s tummy, I planned on extending this to my daughter as well.

However, when she was in her super infant stage, I was wondering how can I have a date with her since she was too attached with Mommy Cali for her milk.  So I decided to delay this plan until she get more independent.

And so, after almost three years, now that she’s a big girl and can ride with me either using her Dr. Stone’s chair (I’ll blog about this later) or just with the passenger seat, we can go to places and spend time and do dad and daughter bonding.

So last weekend we went to a very nice place, a carwash 🙂  It’s so nice dating your baby girl, you don’t need to spend much on a fancy restaurant.  A simple carwash will do.  She’s so amazed with the cars lined up being covered with foam and a high-pressured water hose to rinse it off.  And the vacuum cleaners, it gave her a high, hearing the brrrrooom and zhooom while our car’s mats were being cleaned.

This date was also extra special, as this was the last time we’re going to use our Pipoy (our first car’s name) since we sold him to my sister in law living in Cebu.  Still we’re glad he was retained in our family.  

It brought up some good memories when we first went to Baguio as a family to attend to a friend’s wedding.  We packed it up with all of Champee’s stuff… the sterilizer, jackets, shirts, toiletries, diapers, medicines, lotions.  And since we wanted to serve our friend through our business we also brought our photobooth along.  Plus of course, our clothes which is about only a third of what Champee has.  All of those stuff packed inside a four-door compact sized car travelling more than 200km for more than six hours resulted to a very exciting road trip.

So going back to our carwash experience, it was good exchanging stories with her about what she’s doing when I’m out in the office. We also talked about Frozen and play doh videos in You Tube which I found interesting as there are lots of videos of adults doing demos for any play doh and imagined it to be a good revenue generating channel for them.  Hmmm… what if I ask Champee to do one when she gets her play doh on her birthday?  It might be a good income stream for the family as well 🙂

So there, after an hour and a half Pipoy’s already clean and ready to be shipped to Cebu.


Success

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A sigh of relief…

After the very agonizing and grueling battle with the “poop”, she finally was able to let it out…

It was difficult for me and my preggy wife to sleep while seeing her wake up every now and then last night. There were instances where she would fall half asleep trying to push hard while standing up and just barely putting her head on a pillow on top of the bed.

But, the good thing is, it’s all over now… hopefully this serve as a breakthrough for her to finally eat more fibrous foods and take more than enough liquids aside from her favorite milk.

From this ordeal, I got to research some based remedies which we tried, which should work:

  1. Diet change –  well this one failed for us.  We still can’t convince her before this to try oatmeal, apple juice, prune juice.  What we did successful was to have her drink water much more than what she consumes… the trick? we used the measuring bars on her bottle as her goal… that she should drink two bars of water and made it a game everytime she needs to drink.  The result, more water consumption but still not enough to fight her constipation.
  2. Laxatives – probably we made a mistake stopping her laxatives too early after we brought her to the hospital weeks ago.  So that’s why, this occurred again.  
  3. Suppositories – could be the one that really helped her, but after 5 hours of great ordeal?

The best remedy I guess is the first, so we’ll make sure to work on her diet starting this time..


finally starting…and waiting

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This is my daughter Amanda.  Probably you’re thinking why would I be calling this blog as a rookie dad given I’m already three years being a father.  Well, simply because when I started conceptualizing about this blog, it was during the time when my wife was delivering Amanda.  Wouldn’t it be cool to think that some of the things I was experiencing as a new dad could be something that could others relate to or even get insights from?  Or isn’t just comforting to know that there is someone who might be facing the same challenges as you would from a male’s perspective?

Well, I know that was a very long procrastination on  my part but as what they say, better late than never  So here I am trying to finish this write up late at night while trying to figure what to do with my baby girl’s fight with constipation.

For us adults it may be a very funny scenario, but wait til you see your toddler battling it out the whole day and night for this matter, just to let the stool pass.  Geez it’s a very agonizing experience knowing you as a parent can’t do anything about it after letting her drink her laxatives and putting suppository.  What hurt me the most is that I know that she won’t have this problem have I forced her to eat fruits and veggies and drink lots of water.  Unfortunately, we’re not successful so here we are in the wee hours the morning waiting for her success story.